What is Projecting?

Narcissism and Scapegoating

You will likely be caught completely off guard and left confused and wounded by what the narcissist in your life does next. One minute, it’s all sweetness and light. The next, it’s the silent treatment. The narcissist may withhold communication, affection, attention, or suddenly act like they do not understand why you are behaving a certain way.

This is called “projecting.” Think of a motion picture projector, how it projects a picture out there, on the wall. For the narcissist, other people are the walls and they are the projector. Bad feelings are relegated to the other person (“Why are you always in a foul mood?” “Why do you always have to have your way?” “You are so sensitive but you never hear me.”) 

Adapted from NARCISSISM: SURVIVING THE SELF-INVOLVED by Meredith Resnick

Photo by Adrien Olichon

About the author 

Jillian Bietz

Jillian Bietz is a writer and editor who enjoys doing in-depth research and exploring a wide-range of topics including all facets of mental health and wellness. She is the editor for My Voice Can Speak.

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