Ask yourself what you’re upset with today.
Is it anger or is it resentment?
You have control over whether or not to let resentments go.
Many people hold onto resentment because a part of them believes letting go means letting go of their power—the power to fix the relationship or to teach the someone a lesson. But holding resentments eats up your personal power.
Know how to take back your power? Stop throwing energy at your resentment. Become aware of what you are truly, deeply angry at. What is the hurt beneath the resentment? What is the force the resentment is covering up?
It may be directly related to the person or not. It may be that the person’s way of interacting—their cruelty, their destructiveness, for example—mirrored something or someone else, too.
Try to access that memory as well as the current emotion. Keep track of what you find. Notice it elsewhere in your life. Use it to grow your awareness and self-care.
Adapted from NARCISSISM: SURVIVING THE SELF-INVOLVED by Meredith Resnick
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