Unconscious Parent-Child Relationships That Extend Into Adulthood

Narcissism and Scapegoating

“From the narcissistic parent’s point of view, the child is a vehicle to temper their own intense fears. 

The roles become convoluted. The parent unconsciously turns to the child to fill the dark and cavernous hole inside. This dark hole, the bottomlessness of it, frightens the narcissist parent and eventually the child. Over and over the narcissist has learned to turn away from the dark hole.

Tethered to the dynamic, however, the child tends to the hole where the parent left off.”

At any age. Why even a little bit of awareness can begin to shift things inside you, for you.

Adapted from When Your Parent Is a Narcissist by Meredith Resnick

Photo by Josiah Farrow

About the author 

Jillian Bietz

Jillian Bietz is a writer and editor who enjoys doing in-depth research and exploring a wide-range of topics including all facets of mental health and wellness. She is the editor for My Voice Can Speak.

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