Narcissism & Scapegoating

Navigating the rocky, unpredictable terrain of life
with a narcissist. 

Ludo’s “Love Me Dead” mirrors narcissism to perfection

The lyrics are brilliant, capturing in creatively distilled words the agony and fleeting ecstasy of the illusion the narcissist projects–and how we fall for it, and get kicked by it.

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Desperation examined via the words of John Updike: “Was I clever enough? Was I charming?”

This book review in the New York Times about a a biography by Adam Begley about John Updike (an author whose work I happen to like so very much) made me think about desperation and the lengths one goes to to be seen. (Not the book review specifically, but about what it says about John Updike.) And

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Narcissism: Unsolvable, Unfixable, But, If You Love a Narcissist, Something Simple You Can Do

When I think about it, narcissism is too big for any one person to fix.

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Don’t Apologize for Something Your Narcissist Parent Did. Rescue Yourself Instead

A healthier, nontoxic way of being in a relationship with your n parent would be for you to figure out, based on internal cues, where you may or may not have misstepped.

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Unconscious Parent-Child Relationships That Extend Into Adulthood

From the narcissistic parent’s point of view, the child is a vehicle to temper their own intense fears.

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When You Feel Something Desirable for the Narcissistic Person, Pay Attention to the Opposite Emotion

Every desirable feeling one experiences with or because of the narcissist is invisibly bound to one far less desirable feeling—its polar opposite.

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